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Russell “Rusty” Bourne

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Russell “Rusty” Bourne died peacefully on May 9, 2019. He had been under treatment for prostate cancer by the staff of Kendal at Ithaca, where he lived, and by Hospicare. He sailed off with the loving attention of family and friends.

Rusty, born in 1928, grew up outside of Boston. Graduating from Williams College in 1950, he commenced his career in editing and publishing at LIFE Magazine. When that career was interrupted by the Korean War, he served as a Special Agent in the U.S. Army’s Counter Intelligence Corps in Berlin at a time when that city was under threat by the Russians on all sides. Returned to NYC and employment at Time, Inc., he succeeded in courting and marrying Miriam Anne “Mimi” Young of Wellesley Hills, Mass. Together they raised a family of four children in Westport, Conn.—with focus on sailing, skiing, schooling and commuting.

At Time, Inc, his first job was as personal assistant to Henry Luce, founder of that organization. Thereafter, he became an editor at Architectural Forum Magazine, followed by posts at American Heritage and Time-Life Books. Invited to become head of the book division at National Geographic, Rusty moved his family south, where they all enjoyed the majesty of the capital and cruising in Chesapeake Bay. After a brief period running his own publishing concern, Rusty managed popular book operations at the Smithsonian Institution.

In the early 1980s, the Bournes moved back to New York City, Rusty having been made editor-publisher of Hearst Books. They acquired a weekend house in Litchfield, Conn., which eventually became their home. Rusty retired from active publishing and began creating books on his own, mostly in the field of maritime history. He was made a Fellow of the Massachusetts Historical Association.

At this time, Mimi was stricken with cancer. They moved to Castine, Maine (her ancestral home), where they had acquired a summer cottage some years before. A number of the poems that Rusty wrote in that spring of 1989, following Mimi’s death, have been published in various journals. He moved back to Litchfield to continue book writing. Three years later, having heard from a childhood friend—Dora “Do” Grabfield Flash (who had been widowed some years earlier)—he made an exploratory trip to Ithaca. It was highly successful; the two were married at their old church in Milton, Mass., in October of 1992.

In Ithaca, Rusty continued to write and to work in public service agencies around town, including the History Center and the 211 help line. In 2005 he and Do moved to Kendal. They also ranged far afield in their travels by land and sea. But in 2008, Do succumbed to cancer, dying just before her 80th birthday. In the following years, Rusty concerned himself with Kendal affairs, serving as president of the Residents’ Council as well as a Resident Trustee of the Corporation. He also became a board member of the Cancer Resource Center and a vestryman of St. John’s Church.

Rusty is remembered not only for his books and his interviews with such personalities as Alexander Kerensky, Syngman Rhee, Thomas Merton, and Ida Stover Eisenhower but also for his poetry, which has recently been collected and published as Between Sky and Water— Poems of Maine, The Finger Lakes, and Changing Weather. He is survived by four children—Sarah Perkins Bourne, Jonathan Bourne, Louise Taber Bourne, and Andrew Russell Bourne—plus his brother, Standish Taber Bourne, and four grandchildren, as well as the Flash family of Ithaca.

A memorial service will be held at Trinity Episcopal Church, Castine, at 10 a.m. Saturday, August 31.


Barbara M. Cooke

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Barbara Murray Cooke died June 10, 2019, in North Branford, Connecticut, at the age of 95. Born in Orange, New Jersey in 1924, she attended Hartridge School in Plainfield, New Jersey, and graduated from Westfield High School. She worked at Macmillan Publishing and then served in the United States Marine Corps Women’s Reserve 1944-45, before matriculating at Mount Holyoke. She married Edward Strong Cooke in 1948. They resided in South Orange and Morristown, New Jersey, before moving to Lakeville, Connecticut, in 1960, when Ted took a development position at the Hotchkiss School. In 1969 he accepted a job with the Yale University Alumni Fund, and they moved to Madison, Connecticut. There Barbara worked as an Assistant Librarian at the E.C. Scranton Memorial Library for 17 years before retiring. They also maintained a summer home in Blue Hill, Maine. In 2002 they moved to Evergreen Woods in North Branford, where Ted died in 2005.

Throughout her life, Barbara was kind and gentle to her family and all those around her. Her children were especially proud that she served her country as a Marine and earned a sharpshooter medal. She always drew on that strength to help her offspring weather difficult times. She readily acknowledged those in her community, sincerely asking about their families and their lives. Later in life, she also became an avid Boston Red Sox and New England Patriots fan. She will be sadly missed by all those who knew her. A proud and loving matriarch, Barbara is survived by three children, Allison Cooke Brown (Blake) of Yarmouth, Maine, Catherine Cooke Lux (Chip, who predeceased her) of Philadelphia, and Edward Strong Cooke Jr. (Carol) of New Haven, as well as seven grandchildren and seven great-grandchildren. A Memorial Service will be held in New Haven later in the summer. To sign the online guestbook, please visit hawleylincolnmemorial.com.


Hollis “Hoddie” Grindle Dow

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Hollis “Hoddie” Grindle Dow, 69, passed away unexpectedly June 2, 2019. He was born November 24, 1949 in Bar Harbor, the son of Hollis Grindle and Jacqueline (Gray) Grindle Dow. He moved to Deer Isle, Maine, as a young boy, when his mother married Elmer S. Dow Jr. (Mike), his adoptive father. He graduated from Stonington High School in 1968, enlisted in the U.S. Navy where met and married Belinda (Racine) Dow. They had a son, Hollis Grindle Dow Jr. After an honorable discharge, he learned welding at Bath Iron Works. He was a Jack-of-all-trades, working as a commercial fisherman, lobsterman and welder between Gloucester, Mass., Rockland, Maine, and Deer Isle. He loved working on cars, trucks, motorcycles and driving with a need for speed. He was a great conversationalist and acquired a breadth of knowledge having a curious mind, a love of reading and a desire to learn from others. Hoddie was a skilled chess player and gifted wood carver and artist. He loved nature, plants and gardening and was an avid rock hound. He loved animals of all kinds, including many rescue dogs.

He is survived by his son, Hollis Grindle Dow Jr. of Virginia; a sister, Lisa Dow and her partner Louise Bianchi of Ogunquit, Maine; a brother, William “Bill” Grindle and his partner Teresa Davis of Otis, Maine; a sister, Pam Holden and her husband Andy Holden of Charlottesville Va.; three grandsons, Hollis Gavin Dow, Ash Hollis Harrison and Roland Hollis Harrison of Virginia; and great-grandchildren Hayden Graham Dow and Hazel Anneliese Dow of Virginia; an aunt, Bea Gray of Bar Harbor and many cousins. Predeceased by his parents and siblings Jack, Lee and Heather Dow.

A memorial service will be held Saturday, June 22, 2019 at 1 p.m. at the Congregational Church in Deer Isle. If people wish they can make a donation to the animal shelter of their choice in Hoddie’s memory.


Robert G. Gray

Robert G. Gray of York, Maine, passed away peacefully on Friday, May 31, 2019, with his devoted wife, Annie, by his side.

Born on September 16, 1922 near Bristol, England to Alfred and Maude Gray, Robert demonstrated from an early age, a curious, inquisitive mind with the desire to meet any new challenge or opportunity.

In 1938, having completed courses in Engineering, Trigonometry and Science at Bristol University, Robert joined the Royal Air Force at age 17. For all six years of the war, he piloted Spitfires, Wellingtons, and Lancaster Bombers among others, completing 66 trips across Germany, and winning the Distinguished Flying Cross.

Following the war, always willing to volunteer his services, he participated in the Berlin Airlift, moved refugees during India’s partition in 1947, and Israel’s founding in 1948.

In 1950, Robert joined British Overseas Airway Corp (BOAC) as Captain and started flying the first North Atlantic routes to Canada and the United States of America. Keen to be a part of the entrepreneurial spirit that America offered, he became a U.S. Citizen and joined The New York Times in 1952 as Assistant Production Manager, responsible for providing the daily and international editions. After eight fascinating years at The Times, a new opportunity arose to join the New York Post where Robert became Senior Vice President and Treasurer. During this time, he was at the center of many national events, and had the good fortune to lunch with Presidents Kennedy and Johnson, and other luminaries including Groucho Marx.

In 1965, ready for his next challenge, Robert decided to follow his passion for tennis and designed and built an indoor winter tennis club in Mt. Kisco, N.Y., called Chestnut Ridge Raquet Club. He ran that successfully until 1972. During those summer months he lived in Lugano, Switzerland and participated in the professional European tennis circuit.

ln 1975 he “retired” to York Harbor, Maine, although retirement per se was never part of Robert’s grand plan. He soon became a lobsterman fishing 70 traps, and was well-known for delivering his catch to Harbor Fish Wholesale in the trunk of his 1971 Mercedes 250C Sedan.

Always civic-minded, Robert joined the York Planning Board becoming Chairman, and later became Chairman of the Appeals Board. He also started a weekly newspaper called the York Times, believing an informed community would be a better community. After a brief illness, he retired the paper.

Soon thereafter he became partners with his wife in a Yacht Brokerage Company now called Gray & Gray Yachts. After 37 years of enjoyable business together, they have continued to form many lifelong friendships.

Robert will be remembered as a man of outstanding character, elegance, and kindness, a youthful spirit with an irresistible smile. Remarkably, in all his endeavors, he was self-taught which brought him much satisfaction. Never retired, never idle, up until his passing, he continued to design and build furniture, clocks, and half models in his workshop, always with a tie on.

He most appreciated life’s simple pleasures, sitting in the cockpit of his 27’ Downeast boat, or on the deck of his apartment in Stonington, Maine, watching the sunsets, while enjoying a glass of scotch, or sitting by a winter’s fire with friends discussing the latest Quantum theory.

He inspired young and old with his wisdom and lifelong experiences, and had a gentle way of making all he met feel special.

Robert is survived by his wife, Annie, and her 98-year-old mother, Anne Hawes; her two brothers, Robert and Richard; and niece, Heather and husband David Dwyer and their three children; and niece, Jillian Hawes.

A celebration of his life will be held on June 24 at 11 a.m. at Stage Neck Inn, York Harbor, Maine.

Contributions if desired may be made to the Island Pantry or Island Community Center, Stonington, Maine.

Lucas & Eaton Funeral Home, York, Maine, is assisting with arrangements. Visit lucaseatonfuneralhome.com.


Wendy Knickerbocker

Wendy Knickerbocker, 70, died June 8, 2019 at Eastern Maine Medical Center due to complications arising from her treatment for breast cancer. She was born December 9, 1948, in Bar Harbor, the daughter of Charles H. Knickerbocker, MD and Julia (Cheyney) Knickerbocker.

Wendy grew up in Bar Harbor, attending public school through grade eight. She graduated from the MacDuffie School in Springfield, Mass., in 1966. She then attended Vassar College, where she served as class president and editor of the campus newspaper. She eventually graduated cum laude from Colby College in 1973 as one of its first graduates to earn a bachelor’s degree in American Studies. She was elected Phi Beta Kappa. In 1980, she earned an M.S. in Library and Information Science from Simmons College and was elected Beta Phi Mu.

Wendy worked for more than 20 years as an academic librarian, serving College of the Atlantic, Rhode Island College and, finally, as director of the Nutting Memorial Library at Maine Maritime Academy in Castine. While working at College of the Atlantic, she met her future husband, David E. Avery. At various times in her life Wendy worked as an editor in the publishing business, contract librarian, bartender, bank teller, bookkeeper, and even as manager of Geddy’s Pub in Bar Harbor. After retiring, she was active in the community of Castine, serving as Chair of the Trustees of the Witherle Memorial Library and as editor of the Castine Historical Society newsletter. At the time of her death, she was also serving as a Director of the Beatrix Farrand Society on Mount Desert Island. In addition to numerous published articles on a variety of topics, Wendy also wrote two scholarly biographies of American religious figures: Sunday at the Ballpark: Billy Sunday’s Professional Baseball Career, 1883-1890, and Bard of the Bethel: The Life and Times of Boston’s Father Taylor, 1793-1871.

Wendy was so much more than her work and her education. She loved Maine and Mount Desert Island and was fiercely proud of being a native of Bar Harbor. She loved words and wrote poetry, winning an award for one of her poems in 2015. She loved music, folk music especially. If it was popular between 1960 and 1973, she knew all the lyrics. Wendy also walked. She became a familiar sight wherever she happened to live, walking her daily commute, whether in Boston, Providence, Castine or Bar Harbor. She preferred walking (in any kind of weather) because she could see the world close-up and unhurried. She loved nature. Wendy was a true intellectual, reading widely and collecting books her whole life. She was especially interested in the intersection of American religion and culture. Wendy’s own spiritual side required her to be quiet and listen to her heart. Thus she practiced as a Quaker privately. This led to her interest in Native Peoples, particularly their religious and cultural traditions. Her faith also led her to be a loyal Boston Red Sox fanatic long before 2004.

Wherever she went, Wendy collected friends. Her friends from Bar Harbor invited her to the Bar Harbor High School Class of 1966 reunions for years, never minding that she did not actually attend BHHS. In the 1970s she lived in California. She collected friends from the bank where she worked. Many were still on her Christmas card list for 2019, more than 40 years later. And so it went. At every stop in her life, people gravitated toward her. She was easy to like because she was small and fun, kind and gentle, loyal and generous. Wendy, more than most, lived according to the Golden Rule. She truly refrained from judging, always assumed the best, and sought the positive in people and in life. She was inspiring.

Wendy is survived by her husband of 34 years David E. Avery; her brother E. Ripley Knickerbocker and his wife Carol (Sochovka), of Hampden, MEaine; their sons Erik R. Knickerbocker of Ellsworth, and Christopher A. Knickerbocker of Brunswick, Maine; her sister Barbara C. Knickerbocker, of West Chester, Pa.; her in-laws, Willard J. and Elizabeth K. Avery, of Kensington, Conn.; her sister-in-law Mary (Avery) Hrubiec, of Londonderry, N.H., and her children Katie Rogers of Manchester, N.H., and David Hrubiec of Hooksett, N.H.; and her sister-in-law Lisa M. Avery of Plainville, Conn.

Wendy will be buried in her beloved Bar Harbor in a private ceremony. Later, her family will arrange a celebration of her life where friends can share memories. Wendy’s favorite local charities were the Maine Seacoast Mission, the MDI Hospital, and the Jesup Memorial Library. Before she passed, she suggested that people donate to their favorite local charities in her memory, if they so desire.